Keeper
A holding position that makes your partner feel kept.
About This Position
The penetrating partner holds the receiving partner close while entering from behind, as if keeping them safe and protected. This position emphasizes security, comfort, and being cherished by your partner.
Best For
Anatomy & Physiology
Muscle Groups Involved
- Glutes
- Hip flexors
- Core
- Inner thighs
Angle of Penetration
Angled side entry, medium depth along the side wall
Targeted Pleasure Zones
Body Contact Points
Step-by-Step Guide
The receiving partner lies on their side with their back to the penetrating partner, curled up slightly in a comfortable, protected position. The penetrating partner lies behind, pressing their chest against the receiving partner's back in a full-body spoon.
The receiving partner lifts their top leg slightly, creating a small opening for the penetrating partner to enter from behind at the side angle. The opening should be minimal — just enough for shallow-to-medium entry.
Enter from the side-rear angle while the penetrating partner wraps both arms around the receiving partner — one arm under the pillow around the shoulder, the other around the waist. This double-arm embrace is what creates the "keeping" feeling.
Hold the receiving partner tightly throughout — the arm grip is the defining feature. The holding creates a sense of being protected, cherished, and safe. The physical security translates to emotional vulnerability.
Rock together gently — the side-lying position limits movement, which is a feature. The slow, contained rocking maintains connection while the arms provide continuous security. The receiving partner can relax completely into being held.
Whisper words of cherishing and protection — the Keeper position is about making the receiving partner feel valued and safe. The verbal reassurance complements the physical holding to create deep emotional intimacy.
Safety & Precautions
Warnings
- ! Communicate with your partner about comfort throughout.
Modifications
- * Use pillows for support and comfort.
- * Adjust the angle or depth based on your partner's feedback.
Excellent position during pregnancy — comfortable, secure, and gentle.
Medical References & Sources
The information on this page has been reviewed for accuracy by certified health professionals. The following peer-reviewed and authoritative sources were used in developing this guide:
- • Mayo Clinic — Sexual Health
- • American College of Obstetricians and Gynecologists (ACOG) — Sexual Health
- • National Institute of Child Health and Human Development (NICHD)
- • Cleveland Clinic — Sexual Health
- • Healthline — Healthy Sex & Relationships
Health Disclaimer: Always consult a healthcare professional before trying new positions, especially if you have back pain, joint issues, are pregnant, or have any medical condition. Stop immediately if you experience pain.
Pros
- + Makes the receiving partner feel safe and cherished
- + Very comfortable and comforting
- + Full body contact
Cons
- - Limited movement
- - No face-to-face contact
Tips
- * Hold your partner tightly and make them feel safe
- * Whisper how much you cherish them
Common Mistakes to Avoid
Even with the right technique, small errors can reduce pleasure or increase injury risk. Here are the most common mistakes couples make with the Keeper position:
Holding too loosely — breaking the security
The Keeper is defined by the tight, protective embrace. If the arms are loose or the grip is loose, the receiving partner doesn't feel "kept." The holding must be firm and continuous — the security comes from the sustained grip.
Moving too vigorously
The Keeper is about safety and comfort, not intensity. Energetic thrusting breaks the protective embrace and turns a secure position into a disconnected one. The movement should be gentle enough to maintain the holding throughout.
Not providing verbal reassurance
The Keeper position is about emotional security as much as physical holding. Without words of cherishing, protection, or love, the position loses its emotional dimension. The words complete the "keeping."
Rushing out of the position
The Keeper rewards lingering — staying in the held position for an extended period builds deep emotional connection. Rushing to finish or switching positions quickly misses the secure, cherished feeling the position is designed for.
Variations to Try
Once you've mastered the basic Keeper, these variations can add new sensations and keep things exciting:
Add a Pillow
Place a pillow under the receiving partner's hips to change the angle of penetration and enhance stimulation.
Incorporate Manual Stimulation
Use hands to add clitoral or other external stimulation during the position for enhanced pleasure.
Slow Down the Pace
Switch from thrusting to grinding for a more intimate, sensation-focused experience.
Try Different Surfaces
Move from the bed to a couch, standing, or against a wall for different angles and experiences.
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Written by Dr. Sarah Mitchell
Certified Sex Therapist, PhD in Human Sexuality
Reviewed by Dr. James Chen
Board-Certified OB/GYN, 15+ Years Experience
Last reviewed: July 2026 | Content medically verified | Meet our full team
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