New 69
A modern twist on the classic 69 position.
About This Position
An updated version of the classic 69 that prioritizes comfort and pleasure. This version has both partners lying on their sides, facing opposite directions, making it more sustainable and comfortable than the traditional version.
Best For
Anatomy & Physiology
Muscle Groups Involved
- Glutes
- Hip flexors
- Core
- Inner thighs
Angle of Penetration
Shallow, focused on external stimulation
Targeted Pleasure Zones
Body Contact Points
Step-by-Step Guide
Both partners lie on their sides facing opposite directions — the receiving partner's head near the penetrating partner's hips, and vice versa — like a mirrored, side-lying 69.
The receiving partner draws their knees up slightly to create access, while the penetrating partner positions their mouth at the receiving partner's clitoral area.
The receiving partner positions their mouth at the penetrating partner's genitals, creating the simultaneous oral connection while both remain comfortably on their sides.
Begin with gentle, teasing oral stimulation — the side-lying position is more relaxed than traditional 69, so take advantage of the comfort to explore slowly.
Communicate verbally about what feels good — the side-lying position makes talking easier than the traditional face-to-face 69. Use this to guide each other's technique.
If one partner needs a break from giving, simply pause and focus on receiving. The side-lying position makes alternating between giving and receiving seamless.
Safety & Precautions
Warnings
- ! Communicate with your partner about comfort throughout.
Modifications
- * Use pillows for support and comfort.
- * Adjust the angle or depth based on your partner's feedback.
Generally safe during pregnancy — adjust depth and pace for comfort.
Medical References & Sources
The information on this page has been reviewed for accuracy by certified health professionals. The following peer-reviewed and authoritative sources were used in developing this guide:
- • Mayo Clinic — Sexual Health
- • American College of Obstetricians and Gynecologists (ACOG) — Sexual Health
- • National Institute of Child Health and Human Development (NICHD)
- • Cleveland Clinic — Sexual Health
- • Healthline — Healthy Sex & Relationships
Health Disclaimer: Always consult a healthcare professional before trying new positions, especially if you have back pain, joint issues, are pregnant, or have any medical condition. Stop immediately if you experience pain.
Pros
- + More comfortable than traditional 69
- + Simultaneous pleasure for both
- + Side-lying is relaxing
Cons
- - Can be difficult to coordinate
- - May be distracting
Tips
- * Take turns focusing on giving pleasure
- * Communicate about what feels good
Common Mistakes to Avoid
Even with the right technique, small errors can reduce pleasure or increase injury risk. Here are the most common mistakes couples make with the New 69 position:
Not aligning mouths correctly
The side-lying 69 requires careful alignment so each partner's mouth reaches the other's genitals comfortably. If the alignment is off, shift hips closer or further apart until it works.
Neck strain from awkward positioning
If either partner's neck is craned at an uncomfortable angle, add a pillow under the head or shift the body position. The side-lying 69 should be more comfortable than traditional 69.
Trying to match the pace of traditional 69
The modern 69 is designed for comfort and relaxation, not intensity. Slowing down and enjoying the side-lying comfort is the whole point of this updated version.
Forgetting that communication is easier
One of this position's advantages is that talking is easier than in traditional 69. Don't miss the opportunity to guide each other verbally — it makes the experience significantly better.
Variations to Try
Once you've mastered the basic New 69, these variations can add new sensations and keep things exciting:
Add a Pillow
Place a pillow under the receiving partner's hips to change the angle of penetration and enhance stimulation.
Incorporate Manual Stimulation
Use hands to add clitoral or other external stimulation during the position for enhanced pleasure.
Slow Down the Pace
Switch from thrusting to grinding for a more intimate, sensation-focused experience.
Try Different Surfaces
Move from the bed to a couch, standing, or against a wall for different angles and experiences.
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Written by Dr. Sarah Mitchell
Certified Sex Therapist, PhD in Human Sexuality
Reviewed by Dr. James Chen
Board-Certified OB/GYN, 15+ Years Experience
Last reviewed: July 2026 | Content medically verified | Meet our full team
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