Captivity
A restraining, dominant position for power play.
About This Position
The penetrating partner holds the receiving partner's arms behind their back while entering from behind. This position creates a feeling of captivity and submission, adding a power dynamic to the sexual experience.
Best For
Anatomy & Physiology
Muscle Groups Involved
- Glutes
- Hip flexors
- Core
- Inner thighs
Angle of Penetration
Deep penetration, angle varies with positioning
Targeted Pleasure Zones
Body Contact Points
Step-by-Step Guide
Before anything else, establish a safe word and clear boundaries. The receiving partner must know they can stop at any time by using the safe word. Consent and communication are prerequisites, not afterthoughts.
The receiving partner kneels on all fours, and the penetrating partner stands behind. The penetrating partner takes hold of the receiving partner's wrists and gently pulls them behind their back, holding both wrists in one hand.
The receiving partner's arms are now restrained behind their back — not painfully, but firmly. The one-handed restraint keeps the penetrating partner's other hand free for control and balance.
Enter from behind while maintaining the wrist restraint. The restrained position means the receiving partner can't use their arms for balance or support, creating the feeling of captivity and dependence on the penetrating partner.
The penetrating partner controls the pace, depth, and intensity entirely. The receiving partner is passive, surrendered to the dominant partner's control. Verbal cues ("deeper," "harder," "slower") are the receiving partner's only way to guide the experience.
After the position, release the wrists gently and provide aftercare — hold the receiving partner, check in about their experience, and ensure they feel emotionally safe. Aftercare is essential after restraint play.
Safety & Precautions
Warnings
- ! Requires significant strength and balance from one or both partners.
- ! Keep sessions brief to avoid fatigue.
Modifications
- * Start with simpler variations and progress gradually.
- * Use a soft surface for safety.
Not recommended during pregnancy — the position may be uncomfortable or unsafe.
Medical References & Sources
The information on this page has been reviewed for accuracy by certified health professionals. The following peer-reviewed and authoritative sources were used in developing this guide:
- • Mayo Clinic — Sexual Health
- • American College of Obstetricians and Gynecologists (ACOG) — Sexual Health
- • National Institute of Child Health and Human Development (NICHD)
- • Cleveland Clinic — Sexual Health
- • Healthline — Healthy Sex & Relationships
Health Disclaimer: Always consult a healthcare professional before trying new positions, especially if you have back pain, joint issues, are pregnant, or have any medical condition. Stop immediately if you experience pain.
Pros
- + Creates a dominant/submissive dynamic
- + Very intense and arousing
- + Deep penetration
Cons
- - Requires trust and communication
- - Not suitable for everyone
- - Can be physically uncomfortable
Tips
- * Establish safe words before trying this position
- * Start gentle and increase intensity gradually
Common Mistakes to Avoid
Even with the right technique, small errors can reduce pleasure or increase injury risk. Here are the most common mistakes couples make with the Captivity position:
Not establishing a safe word first
Restraint play without a safe word is dangerous. The receiving partner must have an immediate, unambiguous way to stop everything. The safe word must be discussed and agreed upon before any restraint occurs.
Restraining too tightly
The wrist restraint should be firm enough to prevent escape but not so tight that it cuts off circulation or causes pain. If the receiving partner's fingers tingle, turn blue, or feel numb, the grip is too tight — loosen immediately.
Ignoring emotional aftercare
Restraint play can trigger strong emotional responses — vulnerability, adrenaline, unexpected feelings. Aftercare (holding, talking, checking in) is essential. Skipping aftercare can leave the receiving partner feeling used or abandoned.
Receiving partner not using the safe word when needed
Some receiving partners feel they "should" endure discomfort during restraint play. The safe word exists for a reason — using it isn't failure, it's communication. Encourage the receiving partner to use the safe word without shame.
Variations to Try
Once you've mastered the basic Captivity, these variations can add new sensations and keep things exciting:
Add a Pillow
Place a pillow under the receiving partner's hips to change the angle of penetration and enhance stimulation.
Incorporate Manual Stimulation
Use hands to add clitoral or other external stimulation during the position for enhanced pleasure.
Slow Down the Pace
Switch from thrusting to grinding for a more intimate, sensation-focused experience.
Try Different Surfaces
Move from the bed to a couch, standing, or against a wall for different angles and experiences.
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Written by Dr. Sarah Mitchell
Certified Sex Therapist, PhD in Human Sexuality
Reviewed by Dr. James Chen
Board-Certified OB/GYN, 15+ Years Experience
Last reviewed: July 2026 | Content medically verified | Meet our full team
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