Feeder
A nurturing, feeding position for caring intimacy.
About This Position
The penetrating partner feeds and nurtures the receiving partner during sex, creating a caring, nurturing dynamic. This position is about providing pleasure and care to your partner.
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Step-by-Step Guide
The receiving partner lies comfortably while the penetrating partner enters with a nurturing, caring approach. The focus is on providing pleasure and care.
Tip: Think of this as feeding your partner's pleasure — attentive, giving, and focused on their needs.
The penetrating partner uses gentle, nurturing movements to provide pleasure. The deep penetration is maintained while focusing on the receiving partner's comfort.
Tip: The G-spot is rated 4/5 — the nurturing angle allows for targeted stimulation.
Use verbal reassurance and physical affection to create the caring dynamic. The nurturing approach enhances emotional intimacy.
Tip: The clitoral stimulation is rated 3/5 — the gentle angle provides moderate contact.
The feeding position is about providing pleasure without expecting reciprocity. The receiving partner can simply receive the care.
Tip: This is an Easy difficulty position — the gentle nature makes it very accessible.
Communicate about what feels good. The nurturing position is about adapting to the receiving partner's needs.
Tip: The receiving partner can relax and focus entirely on receiving pleasure.
The feeder position creates a unique intimacy through the act of giving and receiving care.
Tip: The penetrating partner's legs and core provide the gentle movement.
The nurturing dynamic can be healing for both partners. The act of caring creates deep emotional bonding.
Tip: Maintain eye contact and verbal reassurance throughout for maximum intimacy.
Medical References & Sources
The information on this page has been reviewed for accuracy by certified health professionals. The following peer-reviewed and authoritative sources were used in developing this guide:
- • Mayo Clinic — Sexual Health
- • American College of Obstetricians and Gynecologists (ACOG) — Sexual Health
- • National Institute of Child Health and Human Development (NICHD)
- • Cleveland Clinic — Sexual Health
- • Healthline — Healthy Sex & Relationships
Health Disclaimer: Always consult a healthcare professional before trying new positions, especially if you have back pain, joint issues, are pregnant, or have any medical condition. Stop immediately if you experience pain.
Pros
- + Creates a nurturing, caring dynamic
- + Very intimate and loving
- + Focus on the receiving partner's pleasure
Cons
- - Can feel too maternal/paternal for some
- - Limited intensity
Tips
- * Focus on caring for and pleasuring your partner
- * Use gentle, nurturing movements
Common Mistakes to Avoid
Even with the right technique, small errors can reduce pleasure or increase injury risk. Here are the most common mistakes couples make with the Feeder position:
Making the nurturing feel condescending
The feeder position is about genuine care, not treating the receiving partner like a child. The nurturing must feel like love, not pity.
Being too passive as the receiving partner
While the position is about receiving, the receiving partner should still communicate about pleasure. Complete passivity can make the giver feel unappreciated.
Losing the sexual energy
The nurturing dynamic can become too clinical or maternal/paternal. Maintain the sexual energy alongside the care.
Not maintaining the caring dynamic throughout
The feeder position requires consistent nurturing energy. Breaking character or becoming distracted ruins the intimate dynamic.
Variations to Try
Once you've mastered the basic Feeder, these variations can add new sensations and keep things exciting:
Add a Pillow
Place a pillow under the receiving partner's hips to change the angle of penetration and enhance stimulation.
Incorporate Manual Stimulation
Use hands to add clitoral or other external stimulation during the position for enhanced pleasure.
Slow Down the Pace
Switch from thrusting to grinding for a more intimate, sensation-focused experience.
Try Different Surfaces
Move from the bed to a couch, standing, or against a wall for different angles and experiences.
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Written by Dr. Sarah Mitchell
Certified Sex Therapist, PhD in Human Sexuality
Reviewed by Dr. James Chen
Board-Certified OB/GYN, 15+ Years Experience
Last reviewed: July 2026 | Content medically verified | Meet our full team
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