Side-Lying 69
A relaxed side-lying variation of the classic 69 position.
About This Position
Side-lying 69 is a more comfortable variation of the standard 69 where both partners lie on their sides facing opposite directions. This position eliminates the weight and neck strain issues of the traditional version while maintaining the mutual pleasure aspect.
Best For
Clitoral Stimulation
Good clitoral stimulation with the side-lying angle.
Comfortable access for extended clitoral stimulation.
G-Spot Stimulation
Moderate G-spot stimulation with finger insertion.
Fingers can reach the G-spot from the side angle.
Anatomy & Physiology
Muscle Groups Involved
- Relaxed — minimal engagement
Angle of Penetration
Mouth-to-genital, side angle
Targeted Pleasure Zones
Body Contact Points
Step-by-Step Guide
Both partners lie on their sides facing opposite directions, with each partner's mouth near the other's genitals.
Tip: Pillows under the heads keep the neck in a comfortable position.
Adjust positioning so that each partner's mouth is aligned with the other's genitals.
Tip: Scooting closer or further apart adjusts the alignment.
The partner whose head is closer to the other's face can rest their arm along the partner's body.
Tip: This arm position provides stability and allows for hand stimulation.
Begin oral stimulation simultaneously, each partner using their preferred technique.
Tip: The relaxed position allows for slow, unhurried pleasure.
Communicate throughout — tell your partner what feels good and adjust as needed.
Tip: The side-lying position makes verbal communication easier than the traditional 69.
Safety & Precautions
Warnings
- ! Ensure both partners are comfortable before starting.
- ! Use pillows for head and neck support.
Modifications
- * The top partner can drape their leg over the other for different access.
- * Try facing slightly toward each other for more eye contact.
The side-lying version is comfortable during pregnancy.
Medical References & Sources
The information on this page has been reviewed for accuracy by certified health professionals. The following peer-reviewed and authoritative sources were used in developing this guide:
- • Mayo Clinic — Sexual Health
- • American College of Obstetricians and Gynecologists (ACOG) — Sexual Health
- • National Institute of Child Health and Human Development (NICHD)
- • Cleveland Clinic — Sexual Health
- • Healthline — Healthy Sex & Relationships
Health Disclaimer: Always consult a healthcare professional before trying new positions, especially if you have back pain, joint issues, are pregnant, or have any medical condition. Stop immediately if you experience pain.
Pros
- + Much more comfortable than traditional 69
- + No weight on either partner
- + Can be maintained for longer periods
Cons
- - May limit the range of motion
- - Some find the angle less direct
Tips
- * Use pillows under the heads for comfort
- * The partner on top can lift their leg for better access
- * This is the best 69 variation for beginners
Common Mistakes to Avoid
Even with the right technique, small errors can reduce pleasure or increase injury risk. Here are the most common mistakes couples make with the Side-Lying 69 position:
Not aligning properly before starting
Take time to get into the right position. If mouths don't reach the genitals comfortably, adjust by scooting closer.
Rushing instead of enjoying the comfort
The side-lying 69 is designed for relaxed, extended pleasure. Don't rush — savor the experience.
Variations to Try
Once you've mastered the basic Side-Lying 69, these variations can add new sensations and keep things exciting:
Add a Pillow
Place a pillow under the receiving partner's hips to change the angle of penetration and enhance stimulation.
Incorporate Manual Stimulation
Use hands to add clitoral or other external stimulation during the position for enhanced pleasure.
Slow Down the Pace
Switch from thrusting to grinding for a more intimate, sensation-focused experience.
Try Different Surfaces
Move from the bed to a couch, standing, or against a wall for different angles and experiences.
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Written by Dr. Sarah Mitchell
Certified Sex Therapist, PhD in Human Sexuality
Reviewed by Dr. James Chen
Board-Certified OB/GYN, 15+ Years Experience
Last reviewed: July 2026 | Content medically verified | Meet our full team
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