Spider Monkey
A clinging, monkey-like position with wrapped limbs.
About This Position
The receiving partner wraps their legs and arms around the penetrating partner while they enter from above. This clinging position creates maximum body contact and a feeling of being wrapped up together.
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Step-by-Step Guide
The penetrating partner stands or supports themselves upright. The receiving partner wraps their legs and arms around the penetrating partner while being entered from above.
Tip: The penetrating partner needs significant strength to support the receiving partner's weight.
The receiving partner clings tightly — legs wrapped around the waist, arms around the neck or shoulders. The full-body wrapping creates maximum contact.
Tip: The G-spot is rated 3/5 — the clinging position creates medium-depth penetration at a natural angle.
Rock together rather than thrusting. The clinging position restricts large movements — small, controlled rocking creates the stimulation.
Tip: The penetrating partner's core, glutes, and legs support the combined weight.
The receiving partner should grip tightly for the full clinging effect. The tighter the wrap, the more body contact and the more intense the sensation.
Tip: The arms-around-neck and legs-wrapped-around-waist body contact points create the spider monkey configuration.
The penetrating partner can lean against a wall for support. The combined weight is significant — wall support reduces fatigue.
Tip: This is a Hard difficulty position — the strength and endurance required are substantial.
Maintain the clinging wrap throughout. The full-body contact creates an intimate, connected feeling despite the acrobatic nature.
Tip: Communicate about the pace — the receiving partner cannot control depth in this position.
Keep sessions brief — the clinging position is exhausting for both partners. The penetrating partner's legs and the receiving partner's grip tire quickly.
Tip: Transition to a less demanding position when either partner's muscles begin to shake.
Medical References & Sources
The information on this page has been reviewed for accuracy by certified health professionals. The following peer-reviewed and authoritative sources were used in developing this guide:
- • Mayo Clinic — Sexual Health
- • American College of Obstetricians and Gynecologists (ACOG) — Sexual Health
- • National Institute of Child Health and Human Development (NICHD)
- • Cleveland Clinic — Sexual Health
- • Healthline — Healthy Sex & Relationships
Health Disclaimer: Always consult a healthcare professional before trying new positions, especially if you have back pain, joint issues, are pregnant, or have any medical condition. Stop immediately if you experience pain.
Pros
- + Maximum body contact
- + Creates a feeling of being wrapped together
- + Great for intimate, connected sex
Cons
- - Requires strength from both partners
- - Can be exhausting to maintain
Tips
- * The receiving partner should grip tightly for the full clinging effect
- * Rock together rather than thrusting
Common Mistakes to Avoid
Even with the right technique, small errors can reduce pleasure or increase injury risk. Here are the most common mistakes couples make with the Spider Monkey position:
The penetrating partner not having enough strength
The spider monkey requires the penetrating partner to support the receiving partner's full body weight. Without adequate leg and core strength, the position collapses. Build strength first.
The receiving partner not gripping tightly enough
If the receiving partner doesn't wrap tightly, they slide down and the position fails. Grip firmly with both legs and arms to maintain the clinging position.
Trying to thrust in the clinging position
The clinging wrap restricts movement. Thrusting is mechanically difficult and can break the wrap. Rock gently instead for stimulation.
Holding too long without support
The combined weight is exhausting. Without wall support or frequent breaks, the penetrating partner's legs give out. Use wall support and keep sessions brief.
Variations to Try
Once you've mastered the basic Spider Monkey, these variations can add new sensations and keep things exciting:
Add a Pillow
Place a pillow under the receiving partner's hips to change the angle of penetration and enhance stimulation.
Incorporate Manual Stimulation
Use hands to add clitoral or other external stimulation during the position for enhanced pleasure.
Slow Down the Pace
Switch from thrusting to grinding for a more intimate, sensation-focused experience.
Try Different Surfaces
Move from the bed to a couch, standing, or against a wall for different angles and experiences.
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Written by Dr. Sarah Mitchell
Certified Sex Therapist, PhD in Human Sexuality
Reviewed by Dr. James Chen
Board-Certified OB/GYN, 15+ Years Experience
Last reviewed: July 2026 | Content medically verified | Meet our full team
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