St. Valentine's Day
A heart-shaped embrace for deep emotional connection.
About This Position
Both partners lie on their sides facing each other, with the penetrating partner's arms wrapped around the receiving partner in a heart-shaped embrace. This position is designed for slow, romantic lovemaking with maximum intimacy and eye contact.
Best For
Clitoral Stimulation
Moderate clitoral stimulation from the side-lying grinding motion.
The close embrace allows for grinding and hand access.
G-Spot Stimulation
Moderate G-spot stimulation from the angled side entry.
The angle targets the anterior wall from the side.
Anatomy & Physiology
Muscle Groups Involved
- Core
- Hip flexors
- Glutes
- Inner thighs
Angle of Penetration
Slightly angled, medium depth from the side
Targeted Pleasure Zones
Body Contact Points
Step-by-Step Guide
Both partners lie on their sides facing each other, close enough that noses almost touch. The receiving partner's bottom leg stays straight; the top leg wraps over the penetrating partner's hip, creating the leg-over-hook that defines this position's angle.
The penetrating partner wraps both arms around the receiving partner's back — one arm under the shoulder blade, the other around the waist — creating the heart-shaped embrace that gives this position its name. This isn't just romantic; it locks the bodies together.
Enter from the side angle — the lying position creates a slightly upward angle along the anterior vaginal wall. The penetration is medium depth because the hip alignment limits full entry, which suits this position's focus on connection over intensity.
Move in unison by rocking the hips together in a slow, synchronized rhythm. The side-lying position means both partners contribute equally to the movement — neither is passive. Small, rolling hip movements maintain the close embrace.
Maintain continuous eye contact — this is the position's signature feature. At this close range, even whispers feel intimate. The receiving partner can also reach up to touch the penetrating partner's face during movement.
Allow kissing to interrupt the rhythm naturally — this position is designed for slow lovemaking where the pace is deliberately unhurried. Pausing to kiss, whisper, or simply breathe together is part of the experience, not a distraction from it.
The side-lying angle creates moderate clitoral contact through the grinding motion of the hips against each other. The receiving partner can use their free hand to add manual clitoral stimulation if the grinding contact alone isn't enough.
Safety & Precautions
Warnings
- ! Limited movement options — this is about connection, not intensity.
- ! Penetration can be shallow.
Modifications
- * Light candles and play soft music to set the mood.
- * Take your time — this is about connection, not speed.
Excellent position during pregnancy — comfortable, romantic, and low-impact.
Medical References & Sources
The information on this page has been reviewed for accuracy by certified health professionals. The following peer-reviewed and authoritative sources were used in developing this guide:
- • Mayo Clinic — Sexual Health
- • American College of Obstetricians and Gynecologists (ACOG) — Sexual Health
- • National Institute of Child Health and Human Development (NICHD)
- • Cleveland Clinic — Sexual Health
- • Healthline — Healthy Sex & Relationships
Health Disclaimer: Always consult a healthcare professional before trying new positions, especially if you have back pain, joint issues, are pregnant, or have any medical condition. Stop immediately if you experience pain.
Pros
- + Maximum intimacy and eye contact
- + Perfect for romantic occasions
- + Allows for kissing and whispering
Cons
- - Limited movement options
- - Penetration can be shallow
- - Requires similar body sizes
Tips
- * Light candles and play soft music to set the mood
- * Take your time — this is about connection, not speed
Common Mistakes to Avoid
Even with the right technique, small errors can reduce pleasure or increase injury risk. Here are the most common mistakes couples make with the St. Valentine's Day position:
Positioning the legs incorrectly
The top leg must hook over the penetrating partner's hip, not dangle passively. Without the leg hook, the angle is wrong and penetration feels disconnected rather than intimate. The bottom leg should stay straight to provide a stable base.
Thrusting instead of rocking
The side-lying position doesn't allow for traditional thrusting — the bodies are parallel and close. The movement should be a slow hip rock, where both partners roll their pelvises together. Thrusting in this position breaks the embrace and feels disjointed.
Ignoring the heart-shaped arm placement
The arm positioning is what creates the locked-together feeling. If arms are dangling or placed awkwardly, the bodies separate during movement. The receiving partner should actively hold the embrace, not just lie there.
Expecting deep penetration
This position is medium depth by design. The side angle and close body contact physically limit how far penetration can go. Couples seeking deep stimulation should use a different position — this one is optimized for emotional connection and clitoral contact, not depth.
Variations to Try
Once you've mastered the basic St. Valentine's Day, these variations can add new sensations and keep things exciting:
Add a Pillow
Place a pillow under the receiving partner's hips to change the angle of penetration and enhance stimulation.
Incorporate Manual Stimulation
Use hands to add clitoral or other external stimulation during the position for enhanced pleasure.
Slow Down the Pace
Switch from thrusting to grinding for a more intimate, sensation-focused experience.
Try Different Surfaces
Move from the bed to a couch, standing, or against a wall for different angles and experiences.
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Written by Dr. Sarah Mitchell
Certified Sex Therapist, PhD in Human Sexuality
Reviewed by Dr. James Chen
Board-Certified OB/GYN, 15+ Years Experience
Last reviewed: July 2026 | Content medically verified | Meet our full team
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