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#54 Spicy Medium

Submissive

A vulnerable, submissive position for power dynamics.

Medically Reviewed by Dr. James Chen, Board-Certified OB/GYN
Submissive sex position illustration - A vulnerable, submissive position for power dynamics.
Penetration: Deep
Stimulation: G-spot

About This Position

The receiving partner lies on their back in a vulnerable, submissive position while the penetrating partner takes complete control. This position is about surrender, trust, and power dynamics.

Best For

SubmissionTrustPower dynamics

Step-by-Step Guide

1

The receiving partner lies on their back in a vulnerable, open position. The penetrating partner takes complete control of the experience.

Tip: Establish a safe word before beginning — the submissive dynamic requires trust.

2

The penetrating partner positions themselves to control depth, pace, and angle. The receiving partner surrenders all control.

Tip: The surrender of control creates vulnerability that increases arousal.

3

Enter and maintain control of the movement. The deep penetration and controlling angle create intense stimulation.

Tip: The G-spot is rated 4/5 — the submissive angle allows targeted stimulation.

4

Focus on the feeling of surrender and trust. The submissive position is about emotional vulnerability as much as physical pleasure.

Tip: The penetrating partner should be attentive to the receiving partner's comfort and pleasure.

5

The penetrating partner has full agency — use it to create pleasure for the receiving partner, not just for yourself.

Tip: The deep spot, G-spot, and anterior wall are accessible from the submissive angle.

6

Communicate throughout. The receiving partner should express what feels good; the penetrating partner should check in about comfort.

Tip: This is a Medium difficulty position — the trust required is significant but the physical demands are moderate.

7

After climax, provide emotional support and aftercare. The submissive dynamic can create strong emotional responses.

Tip: The vulnerability of the position requires emotional safety — ensure both partners feel secure.

Medical References & Sources

The information on this page has been reviewed for accuracy by certified health professionals. The following peer-reviewed and authoritative sources were used in developing this guide:

Health Disclaimer: Always consult a healthcare professional before trying new positions, especially if you have back pain, joint issues, are pregnant, or have any medical condition. Stop immediately if you experience pain.

Pros

  • + Creates a strong submissive feeling
  • + Very intimate and vulnerable
  • + Allows the penetrating partner full control

Cons

  • - Requires trust and communication
  • - Not suitable for everyone

Tips

  • * Establish safe words before trying this position
  • * Focus on the feeling of surrender and trust

Common Mistakes to Avoid

Even with the right technique, small errors can reduce pleasure or increase injury risk. Here are the most common mistakes couples make with the Submissive position:

Not establishing boundaries first

The submissive position involves surrendering control. Without discussing boundaries beforehand, the receiving partner may feel genuinely dominated rather than playfully submissive.

The penetrating partner being selfish

The receiving partner has surrendered control. The penetrating partner must use that control to create mutual pleasure, not just their own.

Ignoring emotional responses

The submissive dynamic can create strong emotional responses. Not checking in about emotional state can lead to discomfort or distress.

Skipping aftercare

After submissive play, emotional aftercare is essential. Checking in, providing comfort, and discussing the experience ensures both partners feel safe.

Variations to Try

Once you've mastered the basic Submissive, these variations can add new sensations and keep things exciting:

1

Add a Pillow

Place a pillow under the receiving partner's hips to change the angle of penetration and enhance stimulation.

2

Incorporate Manual Stimulation

Use hands to add clitoral or other external stimulation during the position for enhanced pleasure.

3

Slow Down the Pace

Switch from thrusting to grinding for a more intimate, sensation-focused experience.

4

Try Different Surfaces

Move from the bed to a couch, standing, or against a wall for different angles and experiences.

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Written by Dr. Sarah Mitchell

Certified Sex Therapist, PhD in Human Sexuality

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Reviewed by Dr. James Chen

Board-Certified OB/GYN, 15+ Years Experience

Last reviewed: July 2026 | Content medically verified | Meet our full team

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