Nun
A modest, crossed-leg position for gentle intimacy.
About This Position
The receiving partner lies on their back with legs crossed while the penetrating partner enters between the crossed legs. The crossed position creates a tighter fit and emphasizes modesty and gentle intimacy.
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Step-by-Step Guide
The receiving partner lies on their back with legs crossed at the ankles or thighs. The crossed position creates a tighter, more intimate fit.
Tip: The crossed legs create the modest, tight configuration that defines this position.
The penetrating partner enters between the crossed legs. The crossed position creates resistance that increases friction and tightness.
Tip: The G-spot is rated 3/5 — the crossed-leg angle targets the anterior wall from a unique direction.
Adjust the crossing of the legs for different tightness. More crossing creates tighter friction; less crossing allows deeper penetration.
Tip: The inner thighs and hip flexors maintain the crossed position.
Focus on gentle, intimate connection. The nun position is about modesty, tenderness, and close physical contact.
Tip: The chest-to-chest body contact point creates emotional intimacy.
Use slow, gentle movements. The tight fit from the crossed legs means even shallow penetration creates significant stimulation.
Tip: The medium penetration depth is ideal for gentle, sustained pleasure.
Maintain eye contact and verbal connection. The modest, intimate nature of the position is enhanced by emotional closeness.
Tip: This is an Easy difficulty position — the gentle nature makes it very accessible.
The nun position is about connection, not intensity. The tight fit and gentle pace create sustained, moderate pleasure.
Tip: The receiving partner can adjust leg crossing in real-time to control tightness.
Medical References & Sources
The information on this page has been reviewed for accuracy by certified health professionals. The following peer-reviewed and authoritative sources were used in developing this guide:
- • Mayo Clinic — Sexual Health
- • American College of Obstetricians and Gynecologists (ACOG) — Sexual Health
- • National Institute of Child Health and Human Development (NICHD)
- • Cleveland Clinic — Sexual Health
- • Healthline — Healthy Sex & Relationships
Health Disclaimer: Always consult a healthcare professional before trying new positions, especially if you have back pain, joint issues, are pregnant, or have any medical condition. Stop immediately if you experience pain.
Pros
- + Creates a tighter, more intimate fit
- + Very gentle and modest
- + Easy to get into
Cons
- - Limited penetration depth
- - Can be restrictive
Tips
- * Adjust the crossing of the legs for different tightness
- * Focus on gentle, intimate connection
Common Mistakes to Avoid
Even with the right technique, small errors can reduce pleasure or increase injury risk. Here are the most common mistakes couples make with the Nun position:
Crossing legs too tightly
While the tight fit is the point, crossing legs too tightly can make entry painful. Find a comfortable level of crossing that creates friction without discomfort.
Trying to thrust deeply
The crossed legs physically limit depth. Trying to force deeper penetration disrupts the tight fit and can cause discomfort. Work with the crossed position.
Not adjusting the crossing
The leg crossing determines tightness and depth. Not experimenting with different crossing levels means missing the variety this position offers.
Expecting deep stimulation
The nun position is rated medium penetration depth. The tight fit compensates for lack of depth. Couples expecting deep stimulation will be disappointed.
Variations to Try
Once you've mastered the basic Nun, these variations can add new sensations and keep things exciting:
Add a Pillow
Place a pillow under the receiving partner's hips to change the angle of penetration and enhance stimulation.
Incorporate Manual Stimulation
Use hands to add clitoral or other external stimulation during the position for enhanced pleasure.
Slow Down the Pace
Switch from thrusting to grinding for a more intimate, sensation-focused experience.
Try Different Surfaces
Move from the bed to a couch, standing, or against a wall for different angles and experiences.
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Written by Dr. Sarah Mitchell
Certified Sex Therapist, PhD in Human Sexuality
Reviewed by Dr. James Chen
Board-Certified OB/GYN, 15+ Years Experience
Last reviewed: July 2026 | Content medically verified | Meet our full team
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