Flying Dutchman
A flying position with the receiver suspended in mid-air.
About This Position
The receiving partner is lifted and suspended while the penetrating partner enters. This acrobatic position creates a flying sensation like the legendary ghost ship.
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Step-by-Step Guide
The receiving partner is lifted and suspended while the penetrating partner enters. The flying sensation comes from being off the ground.
Tip: Make sure the lifting partner is strong enough — the suspended weight is significant.
The deep penetration angle comes from the suspended position. The receiving partner has no ground support.
Tip: Use a soft surface for safety in case the lift fails.
The flying sensation changes blood flow and creates unique internal stimulation. The deep spot is rated highly from the suspended angle.
Tip: This is a Hard difficulty position — the strength and balance required are extreme.
Communicate constantly about comfort. The suspended position can feel overwhelming — check in about depth and security.
Tip: The penetrating partner's arms, core, and legs support the combined weight.
Keep sessions brief — the physical demands of lifting and suspending are extreme.
Tip: The receiving partner should grip tightly to the penetrating partner for stability.
The flying dutchman is about the thrill of flight and the deep penetration from the suspended angle.
Tip: Always prioritize safety over the thrill — if the lift feels unstable, stop immediately.
The suspended position creates a unique sensation that cannot be replicated in grounded positions. The flying effect is the main feature.
Tip: The penetrating partner should have a stable stance and strong core for the lift.
Medical References & Sources
The information on this page has been reviewed for accuracy by certified health professionals. The following peer-reviewed and authoritative sources were used in developing this guide:
- • Mayo Clinic — Sexual Health
- • American College of Obstetricians and Gynecologists (ACOG) — Sexual Health
- • National Institute of Child Health and Human Development (NICHD)
- • Cleveland Clinic — Sexual Health
- • Healthline — Healthy Sex & Relationships
Health Disclaimer: Always consult a healthcare professional before trying new positions, especially if you have back pain, joint issues, are pregnant, or have any medical condition. Stop immediately if you experience pain.
Pros
- + Creates a unique flying sensation
- + Very deep penetration angle
- + Exciting and adventurous
Cons
- - Requires significant strength
- - Can be dangerous if not done carefully
Tips
- * Make sure the lifting partner is strong enough
- * Use a soft surface for safety
Common Mistakes to Avoid
Even with the right technique, small errors can reduce pleasure or increase injury risk. Here are the most common mistakes couples make with the Flying Dutchman position:
The lifting partner not being strong enough
The flying dutchman requires the lifting partner to support the receiving partner's full weight while performing sex. Without adequate strength, the lift fails and injury occurs.
Not using a soft surface
If the lift fails, the receiving partner falls. Without a soft surface below, the fall can cause serious injury.
Holding the suspension too long
The lifting partner's strength is limited. Holding the suspension too long causes muscle fatigue and increases the risk of dropping.
Ignoring safety signals
If the receiving partner feels unsafe or the lifting partner struggles, the position must be exited immediately. Safety trumps the thrill.
Variations to Try
Once you've mastered the basic Flying Dutchman, these variations can add new sensations and keep things exciting:
Add a Pillow
Place a pillow under the receiving partner's hips to change the angle of penetration and enhance stimulation.
Incorporate Manual Stimulation
Use hands to add clitoral or other external stimulation during the position for enhanced pleasure.
Slow Down the Pace
Switch from thrusting to grinding for a more intimate, sensation-focused experience.
Try Different Surfaces
Move from the bed to a couch, standing, or against a wall for different angles and experiences.
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Written by Dr. Sarah Mitchell
Certified Sex Therapist, PhD in Human Sexuality
Reviewed by Dr. James Chen
Board-Certified OB/GYN, 15+ Years Experience
Last reviewed: July 2026 | Content medically verified | Meet our full team
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