Silence
A quiet, meditative position focused on sensation.
About This Position
Both partners lie on their sides facing each other in complete stillness, with the penetrating partner inside but not moving. This tantric-inspired position is about feeling the connection without movement, focusing on breath and energy exchange.
Best For
Anatomy & Physiology
Muscle Groups Involved
- Glutes
- Hip flexors
- Core
- Inner thighs
Angle of Penetration
Straight-on, medium depth with adjustable angle
Targeted Pleasure Zones
Body Contact Points
Step-by-Step Guide
Both partners lie on their sides facing each other, noses touching. No talking, no movement — just presence. The penetrating partner enters gently and then both partners become completely still.
Synchronize breathing: inhale together, exhale together. The shared breath cycle creates the connection that replaces physical movement. Focus entirely on the rhythm of breathing in unison.
Maintain deep eye contact — in the silence, the eyes become the primary communication channel. Looking into each other's eyes while joined and breathing together creates a powerful energetic connection.
Feel the internal sensations without moving — the stillness amplifies awareness of every point of contact, every pulse, every shift in arousal. The absence of movement forces attention to subtler sensations that are normally drowned out by thrusting.
If the mind wanders, gently return focus to the breath and the point of physical connection. This is a meditative practice as much as a sexual one — the mental discipline of staying present is part of the experience.
Stay in the still position for as long as comfortable — there's no rush, no goal, no performance. The Silence rewards patience with a depth of connection that active positions cannot replicate.
Safety & Precautions
Warnings
- ! Communicate with your partner about comfort throughout.
Modifications
- * Use pillows for support and comfort.
- * Adjust the angle or depth based on your partner's feedback.
Generally safe during pregnancy — adjust depth and pace for comfort.
Medical References & Sources
The information on this page has been reviewed for accuracy by certified health professionals. The following peer-reviewed and authoritative sources were used in developing this guide:
- • Mayo Clinic — Sexual Health
- • American College of Obstetricians and Gynecologists (ACOG) — Sexual Health
- • National Institute of Child Health and Human Development (NICHD)
- • Cleveland Clinic — Sexual Health
- • Healthline — Healthy Sex & Relationships
Health Disclaimer: Always consult a healthcare professional before trying new positions, especially if you have back pain, joint issues, are pregnant, or have any medical condition. Stop immediately if you experience pain.
Pros
- + Deeply meditative and intimate
- + Focuses on sensation over movement
- + Enhances energy connection between partners
Cons
- - May not lead to orgasm
- - Requires patience and focus
- - Not for those who prefer active sex
Tips
- * Focus on synchronized breathing
- * Maintain eye contact for deeper connection
Common Mistakes to Avoid
Even with the right technique, small errors can reduce pleasure or increase injury risk. Here are the most common mistakes couples make with the Silence position:
Moving when you're supposed to be still
The entire point of the Silence is stillness. Even small hip movements break the meditative quality and shift attention from internal awareness to physical friction. If movement feels tempting, notice the urge and return to breath focus.
Treating it as a position to achieve orgasm
The Silence is explicitly about connection, not climax. The stillness and shallow penetration make orgasm unlikely and irrelevant. Expecting orgasm turns a meditative experience into a frustrating one. Release the goal.
Breaking the eye contact
Eye contact in the Silence creates the energetic connection that replaces physical movement. Looking away, closing eyes, or staring at the ceiling breaks the connection. If eye contact feels too intense, look at the partner's forehead or throat rather than breaking the visual link.
Talking during the silence
The silence is literal — no talking, no whispering, no verbal communication. The absence of sound forces both partners to communicate through breath, eye contact, and physical presence. Speaking breaks the meditative atmosphere entirely.
Variations to Try
Once you've mastered the basic Silence, these variations can add new sensations and keep things exciting:
Add a Pillow
Place a pillow under the receiving partner's hips to change the angle of penetration and enhance stimulation.
Incorporate Manual Stimulation
Use hands to add clitoral or other external stimulation during the position for enhanced pleasure.
Slow Down the Pace
Switch from thrusting to grinding for a more intimate, sensation-focused experience.
Try Different Surfaces
Move from the bed to a couch, standing, or against a wall for different angles and experiences.
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Written by Dr. Sarah Mitchell
Certified Sex Therapist, PhD in Human Sexuality
Reviewed by Dr. James Chen
Board-Certified OB/GYN, 15+ Years Experience
Last reviewed: July 2026 | Content medically verified | Meet our full team
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